There are two issues here, first. You give advice, so you are my tutor and/or mentor when you do so, other wise you would not post at all, after all OPF -or myself- are not paying you for it.
You just don't want to deal with negative emotions, but at the same time you consider the advice as positive since it is something a tutor or mentor would give, not negative at all but something someone even pays for..
Hi Leonardo,
I really hate getting involved in a dialog like this, it is like a ping pong match. But here is my return anyway. After this, I won't discuss it any further. Feel free to write back nevertheless.
What I was trying to point out is that there is a difference between the cordial advice I provide here daily to different people and the kind of advice I would be giving someone if I were his/her tutor and/or mentor.
The first one is without any obligations, I freely dispense my advice. The receiver is free to do whatever he/she wants to do with it, he/she can simply ignore it. I am not responsible for making that person better in any manner.
The relationship in the second situation is different. There is commitment and a mutual responsibility. I would then be responsible in making you better and you would be responsible in complying to the best of your abilities.
Next, the matter of payment. I have mentioned "incentive", which is not only money but can be anything. I have a couple of friends whom I personally tutor on photography, and it pleases me to see them improve day by day. That is my incentive. However, I cannot do this kind of intensive tutoring for countless others here in OPF. That would be impossible for anybody.
..If we comment on the photographers that are doing things well we don't help to improve the work of those of us that are making errors... it would be as if we decide to only say that the emperor is dressed when he is not naked. If he is, we would say nothing...
You know quite well that I provide C&C on a daily basis for the good parts as well as the bad parts which need improvement. I would not tell somebody that he is doing something wrong continuously if he/she keeps at it after the first couple of C&Cs. That is the difference between free advice and tutoring. That's why we have professionals such as Ben Lifson doing the latter.
Remember, there is no such thing as a free lunch, you only get what you metaphorically "pay" for.
Cheers,